Coaching is about change, about making changes. A coach is a magician of change, who takes the cards you have it helps you to play your hand better or sometimes to even change the rules of the game.
Changes come from dreams of something better. When we have achieved one dream, we look forward and dream again. There is always the dream beyond the dream.
It's about bringing your dreams into reality and this is what a coach does for you. Coaching engages your imagination and at the same time, is immensely practical in the real world. It deals with goals and achievements.
It links your world of dreaming with your world of reality.
A coach is not only a magician of change, but also a coach can be a freedom fighter.
There are two aspects of freedom. The first is freedom from something and the second freedom to do something. Coaches work on both types of freedom. They help clients released themselves from unsatisfying or unpleasant circumstances. Then they open up choices and possibilities.
If you're engaged in a fight for freedom, who are your enemies? What stops the changes that you want to make?
Mostly, your enemy is Habit habitual actions, habitual thinking. Habits that have dug themselves in over time and are hard to remove. All habits accomplish something of value, otherwise they would not become habits in the first place. But times change and our habits may no longer serve our purpose.
Habits are maintained in numerous ways. We arrange our surroundings to support them. Other people expect us to behave in a predictable way and so treat us in a predictable way, reinforcing our habits.
Habits are like the cruise control on your car - they are set for a certain speed in a certain direction. Then the driver does not have to pay attention. To change the speed and direction, the driver does have to pay attention. Once habits are changed, the new habit will take them in a different direction down a different road.
A coach engages the habits that are holding the client back, sometimes by guerrilla warfare, sometimes by direct assault. Coaching will change the direction of your life. It may only be one small change at a time, but small changes at up.
Think of your life is a journey down the road. You don't know where you are heading, but the scenery is pleasant. After a while you begin to see that your life is being recycled. You see that the same thing comes around again.
Then you come to a branch in the road. Actually, there have been branches all along the road, but you haven't noticed that. Or, if you have, you were comfortable on that road, so you ignored them.
However now the game is different, you have a coach to alert you to the possibilities of change. You change direction, ever so slightly. You take a new road, one that diverges just a little from your original.
The first temptation maybe to think, "Huh! Hardly worth doing." It may be true that the change is only a small one in the short term. But the longer you maintain that change, further away from your original road you will travel. After a year, you will be an entirely different country. This will be so even if you never make another change.
The larger the change in direction, the shorter time it will take to come to new scenery. However, even the slightest change will take you on a different journey if you persist. You simply need to keep on the new track, even though the old one may call you back with seductive promises of familiar comforts.
"The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know." But is there a devil at all on the new road?
What is the role of a coach in this process? A coach does three things:
- Shows you the track you are on
- Points out the choices and helps you take the new road
- Helps you persist in maintaining that change
In general, life is a series of small decisions. A big change is often many little changes saved up for the right moment. Each decision we make either keeps us on the same comfortable track or takes us toward what we truly want.
Coaching helps you to decide and that decision is uniquely yours.
The Best is yet to come!
David Martin.
Answer Concepts, S.A.
answerconcepts@msn.com
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