Being Congruent

"Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment." - Jim Rohn

Sometimes a change in behavior does not follow a change of thinking.

Have you ever been in a position where you have done something you didn’t want to do? Per haps you did it to please someone and then felt you had done yourself a disservice.

Or maybe you made a decision to lead a healthier lifestyle and take up running, aerobics, martial arts or yoga, but when the time came to attend a class or go to the gym you reverted to your previously conditioned bad habit. It’s at times like these you feel a misalignment.

This state of misalignment is what is known as “incongruence.” The behavior doesn’t match the level of desired or stated change. Deep inside you want to act a certain way, but when the time comes you resist the inner urge and say something like, “not this time” or “maybe next time.”

This is incongruence; it is not something that success thrives on. Success requires congruence and this means alignment on all levels from purpose, right down to behavior.

Only then can affect your environment in the way you really want. This is the process of building self-confidence – knowing that you have executed a change of mind and acted accordingly. Being able to recognize when you are being incongruent is the first step in making your desired change happen.

The feeling of incongruence doesn’t have to stem from a major life realization – it can happen during the course of a business meeting, a sales presentation or in a conversation with a partner. So whatever you’re doing, it pays to be able to be able to recognize feelings of incongruence.

When you take a close look at the times when you are being successful, chances are you are also feeling happy and confident. Of course you can imagine all sorts of bad things happening if you choose to, but when you’re engaged in the act of doing something superbly well is when you’ll be at your happiest.

There is an old saying, “if you have to ask yourself if you are happy then you are probably not.” Happiness is a state of mind, and you arrive at it through being congruent in your actions.

So now you know what comes next. It’s time for you to Show Up, Suit Up & Step Up!

The Best is yet to come!

David Martin
Answer Concepts, S.A.
answerconcepts@msn.com