"When you meet someone better than yourself, turn your thoughts to becoming his equal. When you meet someone not as good as you are, look within and examine your own self." - Confucius
You will have gathered values all your life, starting from the day you were born, and carried some of them into adulthood.
What are they? How did you get them? What influence are they having on you?
Inherited values are possibly the most common.
As a child, you'll have been influenced by what was important to your parents, siblings, extended family, teachers and group leaders. Later on, you will have become a little more selective, adapting the values of your chosen heroes from the world of sport, fashion, film, music, politics and so on.
By the time you reached adulthood your values were already forming a major part of your adult programs. For example, if you are always told to finish your food at meal times, you may now be eating much more than you need. If your parents were very academic you may put a high value on acquiring formal qualifications.
Compensatory values are formed when you go to the other extreme to compensate for something which didn't happen for you. For example, if you had a deprived childhood you may compensate for this by overindulging your own children.
Your own judgments, or the way you perceive your own experiences will have an impact on the value you place on. If you have ever been burgled or robbed you are likely to place a high value on security, which may or may not be appropriate in some circumstances.
On the surface these values may seem innocent enough. However, under closer inspection it is surprising, what a major role they play in determining the way your life pants out.
When you recognize an uncomfortable tone, a feeling that all is not well, examine your values to determine whether what you are doing is violating a deeply held value.
A significant part of one on one coaching involves eliciting and creating a hierarchy of your values. Keeping your values aligned with personal mission is critical for maintaining your motivation.
Send an email to answerconcepts@msn.com to schedule a one on one consultation on determining your most important values. Be sure to include your telephone number.
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David Martin
Answer Concepts,
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